Well, I haven’t actually done it again yet, but I am working on it as I write this. The “it” in this scenario is changing my name. If you’ve only known me for the past 22 years, you may not even know that I changed my name to Logynn B. Northrhip when my son was just a baby. At that time, I was still married and I was just diving into this concept of having a name, first and last, that is aligned with my birth path. It was something that my first Feng Shui instructor described as Feng Shui for your name, but which actually follows a distinct mathematical application that was discovered and is taught through the teachings of Alfred J. Parker. It is called the Kabalarian Philosophy.
A few months after I heard about balanced names, curiosity got the best of me and I had them analyze the name I was given at birth and the ensuing nickname that followed. Since I had just changed my maiden name from Barnes to Northrup, they analyzed both of those as well. The results were a mixed bag and neither was a solid match to my birth path. According to Kabalarian philosophy, our birth path is determined by our time and date of birth, and it reveals the “role we are meant to live and evolve through our lifetimes.”
I was so fascinated by the results described in that report that I had them create a “balanced” name report as well. They gave me a list of 30 new first names and 50 surnames that would support my birth path. I’m in the Air group, which has nothing to do with the fact that I am an Aquarius, which is also an Air sign. At that time, I was reluctant to give up the married name that I had so recently adopted from my husband. On some level, I thought keeping a version of his name would keep the peace between us. Instead of Northrup, I changed my last name to Northrhip. The fact that we got divorced about a year later, is proof enough that I should have just picked a brand new name from the beginning.
Flash forward 20 years, and the reality of having such a strangely spelled last name is becoming a burden, and worse than that, it doesn’t feel like the right name for me anymore. Out of the blue a few weeks ago, I dug my balanced name report out of storage and read something that I hadn’t seen when I first went through this process.
“A complete change to one of the names recommended in the list above would be the best choice for you and create the greatest impact in your life. The main concern in an alternative spelling is that because it is close to your current name you will still link yourself to the influence and qualities of your current name.”
During a conversation with my friend at the Kabalarian headquarters in Canada, she said something that really resonated with me. She said, “after all this time Logynn, if you are still feeling unsettled in the name that you took, it might indeed be a good time to change it.” I thought about that for a long time.
Unsettled is the perfect word to describe the energy of the name Northrhip. It’s not like I didn’t give it a chance. I gave it 20 years worth of chances and it still doesn’t fit me. I’ve been trying to make that name fit me in the same way I tried in vain to make my last serious relationship work. Some things just aren’t meant to be and I know in my heart that the name Northrhip and I are meant to part ways.
When I pulled out my old report, there was only one name out of fifty that I had really liked and I had even practiced writing it all those years ago. The name is Ascher, and it turns out that after all this time, I am still really drawn to it. I shared my idea with a few friends and got their input. I kept coming back to that name so much that eventually, there wasn’t a question about whether I should change my name again. It was just a matter of when would I like to get started.
Just to be sure though, I decided to replace my current last name with Ascher on all my social media platforms. To my surprise, people noticed! I got more than a few confused inquiries from friends asking if I had gotten married, hacked or gone back to a never known maiden name. The answer to all of those of course is a resounding NO, but that is why I wanted to address it in this blog.
Over the next few weeks, I will be doing all the legal things required to make this change official and permanent and believe me, the list is long so trust that it is not something I would do if I didn’t believe that it was the best course of action for me and for my life. Go ahead, look it up. Changing your name when you aren’t getting married or divorced is not exactly an easy task. In fact, it is a study in governmental red tape and relentless details, but I am willing to follow all the necessary rules so that I can be in perfect harmony with the life purpose that is meant for me.
What was that old Army slogan from years ago? The one that was popular the first time I changed my name was, “Be All You Can Be”, and it still speaks to me after all this time. We get one life, and I intend to be all I can be for as long as I have left in this body and on this planet. If I am lucky, I will be able to legally rename myself Logynn Ascher by my 54th birthday. That means I have right at six months to get going. Stay tuned because life is about to get really fun and even more interesting than ever!